You have been on this wonderful and magical earth because of your parents only and you must agree that they have taken your care from childhood till today and they also expect the same treatment from you in the old age. In the present days the fashion is for living in separate flats away from parents in almost 30 to 40 percent cases. The parents also agree to the same arrangement out of love and affection to their children. Then children are in bad contacts sometimes due to developed frankness and communication facilities and they do not care to take advice for important decision of marriage also from parents. As a formality they introduce to the parents the friend in some cases and in most of the cases they even do not care to consult the parents. This trend is developing day by day which turns in miserable life of parents and the concerned persons in both the families, in most of the cases. This is because there is no proper control over the children even they are grown up and major.
The parents are helpless and they live in adjusted arrangement made by their earning and major sons. Previously in joint family the happiness and satisfaction was to the maximum extend due to joint, collective responsibility and caring nature of all. The value of advice of parents and old grand father and mother and elder relatives is now a days not important to the children. I do not want to blame all for this but it is a fact that this type of trend is increasing. It is also important to note that the cost of living of double establishment or separate establishment is also unnecessarily to be borne by all on account of rent, transport and service bills like light, telephone, taxes other arrangements for children.
In the important event of booking flat, marriage, taking land ,doing investment, doing business the advice of parents, elders and well wishers is very much important and every person should ensure that decision is taken by due advice of parents and well wishers and if necessary in consultation with experts and professionals. Easy money is coming in hands due to high salaries and attractive foreign business, income from stock and share market investments and trading, but it should be ensured that money is invested wisely with due precaution and spent also wisely, for necessary requirements.
To obey the parents and to give respect to them is a primary duty of the children. When grown up and earning money ,the sons and daughters of the parents should arrange their regular check up and balanced food as per their age and health. Every care as a child should be taken of the parents by every person. It should be remembered that they are our Gods on the earth. Even God comes later as mother has to keep you in her body for more than 9 months and then you are born. Hence every person should keep in mind that you cannot clear the debt of your parents by money and arranging their stay elsewhere in old citizen homes or hostel meant for them. IN special rare cases that may be necessity. You have to please your parents, respect them every moment, not to show anger, not to speak loudly with them.
Every responsible householder should ensure that he takes food, drink after giving the same to his parents, children and wife. So also about clothes, otherwise he is committing sin. Children should honour and pray their parents in the morning with cheerful face and in the evening also respect them by namashkar before going to sleep and wish good health and satisfaction in their life. They should also pray God before going to sleep in the night. If parents are not staying with them they should contact them daily or occasionally in person or on phone, internet and pray for their good health and happy days. If they are staying in remote places, letter should be written and for financing help money order should be done periodically. If you do so I am sure that you will have a nice sleep and your health of mind and body will be improved day by day. You will have greater visualization for your trade and business, tasks, problems and study, as you get support and ashirvad i.e. blessings from your parents.
Moral duty cannot be enforced but it should come from your heart. Any misunderstanding created by somebody or from your own actions should be removed by contacting the parents personally and removing the misunderstanding. Minds should be clear and you should note that they are your parents who gave birth to you. Balance should be done between you and your parents by giving due respect to them as well as your spouse or other concerned relatives should be taken into confidence for removing misunderstanding. Ego, anger, hate these words should be removed from your dictionary of Life to do moral duty towards your parents for success in your life.
Today on the occasion of International women day I appeal all sons and daughters and spouse also to see that all are happy by your actions and proper communication with each other.
I also appeal to those who are taking are about to take decision of divorce should stop doing so and take the spouse in confidence and carry their married life successfully. Do not do friendship with those who advise you to take divorce and ensure smooth married life. Those who have applied for divorce should withdraw the applications if case is false according to their inner mind, or reasons are not such to take divorce. Those who took divorce may also rejoin if that is acceptable to both after proper discussions and understanding. You should well understand that wife is not only wife but she acts as your mother also to take care of you in old age along with your children and she is faithful to you throughout life.
I will be happy if due to my lecture married life of any couple is on right track and children start or improve their moral duty towards parent.
